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Weekly Discussion : What Makes You Feel Angry?

I would like to post some topics on the title “Weekly Discussion” on every Sunday. You can discuss these topics with your family members, kids during food time, sleep time, leisure time. And don’t forget to post your experiences  in the comment box …

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What Make You Feel Angry???

August 28, 2016 


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This MOM’s Life

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Blessed to meet many loving hearts through this virtual space. One such beautiful soul is Gayatri Aptekar, lovingly called as Gayu. I met her in a social media through her depression survival story. Feeling very excited and proud to have her for “This Mom’s Life”. Thanks Gayu for kindly accepting my invitation. She’s a passionate blogger, inspiring to the core and make the readers motivated and geared up.Her choice of words and the clarity with which she writes are inimitable. Whenever I read her posts, I feel positive vibes within me ….. a feeling beyond words. All her posts are precise yet powerful, thought-provoking and especially very soothing.
Gayatri is a Professional Storyteller, Mental Health Advocate,  Writer, Blogger and Parenting Coach. Above all she’s a mother to  nine year old daughter, Samu. She believes in the power of Dreams. She quit her nine year corporate career to follow her passion. A Master Practitioner of NLP, she works with children to accelerate their learning, getting them into peak performance states and coaching them to deal with the everyday challenges. When she is not counseling students, individuals or couples, she can be found at her blog, “Outside the Kitchen Window” wielding her magical wand to pen her thoughts, poems, fictitious stories, mouth-tingling recipes and book reviews. Apart from these creative adventures, she enjoys reading, dancing, cooking and photography. She also love to explore the human mind, talk to people, read, be with nature, dance, sing and tell stories 🙂 This multifaceted celebrity shares her parenting thoughts with our readers here ……
1.       What three words describe you as a mother?
                     Funny, Playful and Loving
2.       What’s the parenting rule you never break?
                     I believe parenting comes with no rules. If you get the desired results, it works for you and your child.
3.       And one rule you do break?
                    When there are no rules…how can I break :) We’re a team and we make our own rules!
4.       How do you spend time off for yourself?
                    I dance, listen to music, read and sometimes, I prefer silence….so I sleep🙂
5.       What’s the best part of your day?
                   There’s no one best part, but many- When I wake up my daughter and she hugs me, when I drop her to the bus stand and she waves me bye, when I pick her up and she says, “I missed you mumma”, when I tell her a story at night and dozes off in my arms.
6.       What’s your favourite guilty pleasure?
                   My online presence🙂 Spending time on Facebook🙂
7.       What five things can always be found in your refrigerator?
                   Butter, Tomatoes, Vegetables, Pav Bhaji Masala and Ginger
8.       What words describe you as a wife and a mom?
                   Wife: I don’t know exactly, but I guess my strength as a wife is in respecting my partner and giving the space to grow as an individual.
                   Mom: I’m a learner and I continue to become a better person every single day
9.       Do you have a family ritual that you love?
                   Morning Walks on weekends. I treasure this time when Hubby, me and Samu go for long walks. Such a pleasure to connect with nature and my family.
10.   What are 3 best things you love to teach your child?
                  Resilience, Respecting others and having fun in whatever activity you choose. 
Thanks again Gayu for your great lifetime sharing with us …🙂

You can reach her @ 

Twitter: Gayatri Aptekar
Her Parenting Page: A Better Parent

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Playful Ways To Introduce Mindfulness To Your Kids

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Have you ever tried to be mindful? Have your children ever found it difficult to concentrate on the task at hand? Have your children suffered from anxiety and fear? Are your kids hyperactive? Do you love to have your children be happy always and enjoy life? Have you ever imagined that your children may also suffer from stress? Then it’s our responsibility to cultivate mindfulness in children.

Mindfulness simply means noticing and giving attention to our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment. As a parent, be mindful everyday by giving them your full attention when speaking with them, giving them a mindful hug, by taking them outside, by playing with them, by appreciating them for their good actions, by preparing healthy and homemade food. You can add to this list too.

Effects of Mindfulness on Children

1. Can help them to feel comfortable and relaxed.
2. Better focus and concentration.
3. Raises self-awareness.
4. Can give interconnection by bringing compassion, forgiveness, and gratitude into them.
5. Can help kids thrive at school.
6. Better conflict-resolution skills.
7. Better ways to respond to difficult emotions.
8. Increased empathy and understanding of others.
9. Strengthens attention and concentration.
10. Improves classroom participation.
11. Enhances social and emotional learning.

Mindfulness for Children
Here’s how you can start them into their mindfulness journey, make them feel better, reduce their stress, and help them enjoy their life a little more. Mindfulness should be introduced to them in a fun, joyful and playful way. It should not be forced at any time. Try to use games and activities.

Here are 5 playful ways to cultivate Mindfulness in your children:

Mindful Listening
This practice is to open their ears to sound. Select a piece of music you have never heard before. Ask them to close their eyes and just listen to the music. Allow them to get lost in the journey of sound for the duration of the song. A bell can also be rung at regular intervals. Tell your child that you are going to ring a bell or a tone bar, and that they have to listen and raise their hands once the bell stops. They can be asked to listen to other sounds too before opening their eyes. It can be done in just one or two minutes. You can do the same thing every day. It can also be repeated daily at the same time.

Mindful Breathing
This practice can be done standing up or sitting down anywhere at any time. All you have to do is make sure your kids are still and focusing on their breathing for just one minute. Ask them to breathe in and out slowly. This can also be done in a more playful way by using Breathing Buddy Soft Toys.

 

Continue reading the original post at Cultivate Mindfulness In Children

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Do you practice mindfulness at your family ??? Please feel free to share your ideas. We are all ears ….. 🙂🙂🙂


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How To Have A Healthy Life – Simple Tips For Healthy Family

 

Every one of us wants our kids to be active, healthy and do physical exercise. And the task of how to get our kids away from all sorts of gadgets and how to make them love sports and other physical activities is the biggest worry of all parents today. We know the importance of eating nutritious foods and exercising. Yet we the parents often struggle to help their kids develop healthy habits. Here are the simple ways to keep your family healthy:

Be aware of your family’s health patterns

Keep your mind relaxed and help your family stay calm and cool. Many health issues arise due to stress, unhealthy food, breathing issues and posture. If your posture is good then your body will get fueled. Make sure that your kids have peaceful sleep for the duration recommended for their age. Be ready for the various climate and season changes. Keep the medical records of your family updated.

Do self-analysis

Self analysis of your family’s health pattern may help you to avoid many problems at an earlier stage. When you wake up in the morning, you should feel brisk. You should be able to complete your morning chores without any difficulties. If you press your nails, they should turn red. The color of healthy eyes should be white. These are the signs of a healthy body. Talk to your family members about their health often and be a role model.

Follow healthy habits

Incorporate some healthy habits into your family such as:
1. Drink a glass of water to refresh your body in the morning.
2. Have curry leaf juice, methi water and fresh juices which helps to improve your liver function.
3. Enjoy protein rich breakfast to gain the energy for the entire day.
4. Have nuts, dry fruits, soups, fruits and juices as your snacks.

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How do you make your family stay healthy ??? We are all ears ….. 🙂🙂🙂


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Weekly Discussion : What Does Freedom Mean To You?

I would like to post some topics on the title “Weekly Discussion” on every Sunday. You can discuss these topics with your family members, kids during food time, sleep time, leisure time. And don’t forget to post your experiences  in the comment box …

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August 14, 2016 

Wishing all Indians  A Happy 70th Independence Day !!!


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Heartful Of Promises #BarAThon Challenge Day #7

Today is a special day. The first Sunday of August is celebrated as World Friendship Day. And today is the last day of BarAthon Challenge from August 1, 2016 to August 7, 2016. Hence I am happy to dedicate this post to all my friends who made my life so colorful by their physical and virtual presence. You all add color and fragrance to my beautiful garden of friendship. To you, my friend, heartful of promises …….

 

Heartful Of Promises

Friends like you around me 

Make my days more meaningful

Thanks to you, dear

For being with me always

I promise you, dear friend

That I shall focus

On all happy times we spent

And I will send out positive vibes

Into your mighty world of love

I promise you, dear friend

That I shall be grateful

For all wonderful moments

And celebrate the special days with you

To make you more special

I promise you, dear friend

That I shall love you

And support you at hard times

And I will stand by you

Always, no matter what

I promise you, dear friend

That I shall pray for you and family

To make your joys as deep as ocean

And your troubles as light as its foam

May your life be filled with abundance

I promise you, dear friend

That I shall keep my promises

Till the last breath of my life …..

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P. S : On this special occasion, I would like to thank all admins of Blog-A-Rhythm for their untiring efforts to make this BarAThon Challenge a grand success. I really appreciate their motivation for making us to write and blog on all these seven days. And I am grateful for them in helping to get connected with more loving writers and readers. Also I would like to thank all my blogger friends who encouraged me with their positive comments and support by sharing. Thanks again, my friends.

Submitting this post for #BarAThon hosted by Blog-A-Rhythm. Today, Day #7 prompt is Promise.  I’m a part of team Blue Lagoon. Enjoy the other posts or happily participate here.

 

Don’t miss to read my other posts for the challenge :

Day 1 : Untold Story Of My Brother

Day 2 : What You Don’t Know My Love

Day 3 : It’s Time To Move On

Day 4 : Hey, It’s Ok Amma !!!

Day 5 : Nostalgic Notes From A Mommy Diary

Day 6 : Not Just A Wishful Thinking

 


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Not Just A Wishful Thinking #BarAThon Challenge Day #6

After a very long waiting, we had a chance to discuss many family matters over a cup of hot coffee during his vacation last month. We shared, recollected, cherished and planned about many things in our life. We are extremely happy that we have created every second of our life as we desired.

We two started our family life, not like others with some lovely dreams. We started our family with personal loans, instalments and family debts. So we dreamt not about our honeymoon, not about surprise gifts, not about romantic date nights but we too had our own style of dreams. Once we got engaged, we discussed many things and we listed some priorities for the first five years of our marriage. We made our 5 Year Marriage Vision as :

  1. In spite of all our personal difficulties, we should support our both families.
  2. We should pay all our EMI within the deadline to avoid penalties.
  3. We should complete our post graduation.
  4. We should work hard to make our child’s dream come true.
  5. Within 5 years, we should own our house and a car.

With loans and debts, our dreams happened to be a Wishful Thinking.But our passion and love kept the flame burning. Now we are so happy and proud that our dreams were not just a wishful thinking but a reality.  I love this quote very much and am sharing with you to make your dreams also come true.

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What do you think about Wishful Thinking ??? Have your dreams come true ??? Share your interesting stories with us ….🙂🙂🙂

P.S : We bought our first  ( second-hand ) car during our second year, our house in fourth year, completed my ME in fifth year, Vivek completed his MBA in fourth year and cleared all our loans taken for marriage within five years. We dreamt not just a wishful thinking.

Submitting this post for #BarAThon hosted by Blog-A-Rhythm. Today, Day #6 prompt is Wishful Thinking.  I’m a part of team Blue Lagoon. Enjoy the other posts or happily participate here.

 

Don’t miss to read my other posts for the challenge :

Day 1 : Untold Story Of My Brother

Day 2 : What You Don’t Know My Love

Day 3 : It’s Time To Move On

Day 4 : Hey, It’s Ok Amma !!!

Day 5 : Nostalgic Notes From A Mommy Diary

 


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Nostalgic Notes From A Mommy Diary #BarAThon Challenge Day #5

Last Sunday after my hubby returned back to South Africa, all days I was searching, cleaning, and organising our home. Today, when I was sorting out and arranging my hubby’s and my son’s shoes, I was overwhelmed with so many memories and thoughts. Shoes of different brands, for various needs and of multiple colors made me to walk in my sweet memory lane. In fact I would always say that we can run a shoe shop when we retire. That’s a different story….😛

 

Looking into the new branded shoes of Mithu, I could not stop thinking about his first Tiny Shoe used during his early tiny steps.  Those were so little that they could be held right in my palm. Now his shoe size has become 6. How much and how fast he has grown. Always I have a guilt at the bottom of my heart that I missed his early childhood since I was forced to work on those days. He started his little steps during his eighth month. At that time he had a Micky Shoe which sounds while walking. He loved it to the core that he would wear them even inside the house. The sound from them helped my mom, many a times, to track him while she was busy in kitchen and other chores.

 

Mithu would say as “Brukaathe” for his tiny shoes and sandals. Even now we will tease him with this word. And sometimes he will ask “Amma, how will I say many things differently during my childhood?”

 

Once he started to walk without support, we should be running behind him. He would walk that fast. Almost running. And he never allowed us to carry him. He loved to walk more and more. My Amma and Mithu would go for a long walk everyday in the evening. That walk was mainly for seeing me at the street itself when I returned from my work. On some days the walk had been extended from 5 pm to 7 pm since I had more responsibilities at my work place. Sorry, dear …… I made you to wait and long for me …. Really sorry !!!

 

I also remember the days when he compelled me for walks with him during my holidays. And he used to tell me many stories – some heard stories and some created stories – how sweet were those days. Loving nostalgic notes from a mommy diary.

 

Now with the same love and longing, I was waiting for him to hear his stories when he return from school. Oh, God, please make him slower in growing as a man since I would love to capture his teen years at least deep in my mind.

 

P.S : My son has just entered into his teens this July. Still we are sharing many stories, creating many stories and writing many stories……❤❤❤

 

Are you a Stay At Home Mom or a Working Mom??? Have you enjoyed your child’s first things?? Share your interesting stories with us ….🙂🙂🙂

 

Submitting this post for #BarAThon hosted by Blog-A-Rhythm. Today, Day #5 prompt is Tiny Shoes. I’m a part of team Blue Lagoon. Enjoy the other posts or happily participate here.

Don’t miss to read my other posts for the challenge :

Day 1 : Untold Story Of My Brother

Day 2 : What You Don’t Know My Love

Day 3 : It’s Time To Move On

Day 4 : Hey, It’s Ok Amma !!!

 


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Hey, It’s Ok Amma !!! #BarAThon Challenge Day #4

On that day, as usual Mithu got out his school bus and walked with me to home. He was sharing his day at school with me. But my mind was held back thinking something about that morning. Once we reached home, Mithu shouted ” Hey, Amma, you did a big mistake today.  And you were being caught red-handed. What is your answer now??” 

” Hey, Amma, you did a big mistake today.  And you were being caught red-handed. What is your answer now?? ” 

Feeling little relieved, I started giving explanations to him. And finally, I apologised that I will not repeat this mistake again and asked him for any punishment. But simply he said ” Hey, It’s ok Amma. For me it’s not a big mistake, since I LOVE YOU”.

” Hey, It’s ok Amma. For me it’s not a big mistake, since I LOVE YOU”. 

My eyes filled with tears. The same phrase – Hey, It’s ok, Amma –  for which I was a bit harsh to him on that morning. But now it sounds to be different with love, kindness and maturity. Mithu, I learnt and am learning from you, the most of my life lessons.

Come on, to know what happened on that morning, let us sit with a cup of Green Tea and Low Calorie Fibre Biscuits and chit-chat. You know, I’m a health freak ….😛

Morning Scene :

I enterd into our bedroom very fast and got irritated on seeing the wet towel over bed. I called Mithu and started advising him that he’s not responsible, not understanding, not obeying and blah blah blah. He simply said, “Hey, It’s ok, Amma”. His most favorable mantra. On hearing this, I got more irritated, for this is the most favorable mantra of his dad too.

Then I packed him lunch and dropped him at his bus stop. Once I reached home, I noticed his water bottle and lunch towel were sitting in the dining table just blinking at me. I was much worried for two reasons. First one  that Mithu will be suffering and the other was that I was not responsible, not understanding, and blah blah blah. But my guilty turned into pride on that evening.

Evening Scene : Get back to the start ….. for the dialogues after being caught red-handed by my son for missing to give his water bottle & lunch towels …… I have to accept that sometimes I too make mistakes …..😛

After these scenes :

Now I also started using “It’s ok” mantra …. and not to mention it has become our family mantra too …😛

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P.S : This happened when Mithu was 9 years old. Still I’m learning from him everyday and in every occasion …. Thanks dear ….❤❤❤

Have you ever been caught red-handed??? And do you have any family mantra??? Share your interesting stories with us ….

Submitting this post for #BarAThon hosted by Blog-A-Rhythm. Today, Day #4 prompt is Caught red-handed. I’m a part of team Blue Lagoon. Enjoy the other posts or happily participate here.

Don’t miss to read my other posts for the challenge :

Day 1 : Untold Story Of My Brother

Day 2 : What You Don’t Know My Love

Day 3 : It’s Time To Move On

 


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It’s Time To Move On #BarAThon Challenge Day #3

Still I could feel that ache in my heart. Still it pains a lot. For me, it’s more painful to lose a relation out of ego than losing by death. Everything happened just like a flash. Yeah, I mean this. Everything including life went in a flash.

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My brother told about his affair with a girl about some 7 years back. With so many discussions at various levels in our family, his marriage happened. But the marriage itself was just like a thrilling kidnap movie scene. In spite of all these dramas and dreams, I strongly believed that their marriage will be a kind of happily ever after for 5 main reasons :

  1. I thought as it was a love marriage after a big struggle, it would be long-lasting. But I’m not aware at that time this love was built out of money, status and ego.
  2. I thought as they were going to live in US, nobody to get into their life, It would be romantic and long-lasting. But they made all fights, all arguments and all decisions themselves. Just passed an information at the end.
  3. I thought they were highly educated, it would be matured relationship and long lasting. But it only helped in fueling their ego and heated arguments. They used modern technologies to break the love and not to make the love.
  4. I thought they both were working, it would be more satisfying and long-lasting. But this made the power struggle, domination and control over the other.
  5. I thought as they learnt and learning from their family, it would be more beautiful and long-lasting. But marriage is not between two hearts, it is between two families. That I unsterstood very lately.

So they decided that it’s time to move on ….. after 6 years of No-Love marriage …. during last November ….. Still I feel the pain ……

As I said, everything went in a flash. Love, Lust, Marriage, Child, Relationship and everything went in a flash. My mind still lingers around the questions as where is love, value, adjustments, support and encouragement between young couples today. I’m deeply worried about their fragile lives in this modern era. Who’s going to teach them the vales of our family system???

Do you have any pains with you ??? Share it with us and just move on ….

 

P.S : As a sister and a mother, I miss my neice  ( Brother’s daughter ) still ….. My family is not able to get out of this pain still …..

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Submitting this post for #BarAThon hosted by Blog-A-Rhythm. Today, Day #3 prompt is Fragile Lives. I’m a part of team Blue Lagoon. Enjoy the other posts or happily participate here.

 

 

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